I'm Lilith. I wear many hats. And by "hats" I mean "tiaras with horns."

She/her/hers. White queer femme fat disabled trans woman. Definitely not one of those nouveau pomo boho-a-go-go mofos.

fuck yeah she is


The “autogynephilia” theory was literally coined with the mindset of “no woman can feel naturally homosexual” so if you believe in it or if it is part of your “trans critical analysis” then I got news for you: you’re fucking misogynistic and fucking lesbophobic.

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newsflash: you do NOT have to be nice to people who aren’t nice to you, and that includes people who are transphobic and homophobic and racist and misogynistic. “turn the other cheek” is the worst bullshit i’ve ever heard in my life. “treat people the way you want to be treated” doesn’t apply when everyone treats you like shit

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Anonymous said: I once heard a particular infamous radfem, when pressured to give examples of 'shared girlhood' type experiences that all (cis) women have in common (and thus justifying misgendering trans women), use "getting your first period" as her example. I'm lost, what does menstruation have to do with socialization again?


A lot of stuff about menstruation involves socialization, but even that’s not a universal shared girlhood experience.

The stuff that involves socialization includes negativity about it, positivity about it, not even warning about it before it starts so you have a child freaking out over it.

The thing is that with cis girls, not menstruating is itself an experience that has an impact on them. But with trans girls, we’re just told we’re perfectly okay with that, and it’s appropriation for it to have an impact on us.

Yeah, sorry, it’s impactful. When menstruation is the gold standard for womanhood, every woman who cannot menstruate—not just trans women—are impacted strongly. But cis women won’t stop doing this even when you point out they’re hurting other cis women.


I just read “Brontës” as “Bronies” and this is why I need sleep


the point of social activism isn’t equality or loving each other, it’s about breaking down dangerous power systems when are people gonna get this

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like tbh i feel like my problem with the “dark and gritty!!” trend in modern stories is this

there’s this idea in our culture that cynicism is realistic? that only children believe in happy endings, that people are ultimately selfish and greedy and seeing with clear eyes means seeing the world as an awful place

that idealism is— easy, i guess. butterflies and sunshine and love are easy things to have in your head.

but i’ve known since i was fifteen that idealism— faith in humanity— optimism— is the most difficult thing in the entire world.

i constantly struggle to have faith in humanity, because it’s really, really easy to lose it. it’s easy to look at the news and go “what were you expecting? of course humans behave this way.” it’s easy to see the world and go “ugh, there’s no hope there.” and the years when i believed that were easy. miserable— but easy.

it is hard work to see the good in people. it is hard work to hope. it is hard work to keep faith and love and joy and appreciation for beauty in my daily life.

and when moviemakers and tv producers and writers go “omg!!! all characters are selfish and act poorly and don’t love each other, nothing ever happens that is happy or good, that’s so much more realistic, that’s so much more adult”

no, it’s not

it’s childish.

it’s the most childish thing i can imagine.


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explicitly queer spaces are so important

yeah but only if there are explicitly transfeminine, qpoc and queer disabled spaces inside that space

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Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

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Anonymous said: honestly curious, why does it offend you?


i see lucy as a racist film that plays on negative stereotypes while hiding behind the cover of (white) feminism. 

all this film has done is switch out the white man for a white woman. it’s still a film about a white person getting violated by the evil poc, then gaining power and wiping them out. 

here’s 2 of my favourite scenes from the trailer: 


from top to left to right:

KEEP CLEAN 保持清潔,APPLE 蘋果,ONION 洋蔥,GRAPE 葡萄,CHAIR 椅子 EDIT: sorry it says ORANGE 橘子,TOMATO 番茄

traditional chinese is an actual written language used by millions of people, not symbols to be thrown around at the whim of set designers because they look cool and idk, serves to create a menacing asian atmosphere. this is so disrespectful, and made even worse by the fact that this film in set it taipei, taiwan where the official written language is traditional chinese.

it doesn’t matter that this film caters to a primarily “white” audience who won’t be able to read it, the language and culture of taiwan isn’t something for you to twist and use as you deem fit because it’s “exotic.” 


lucy shoots a guy for not being able to speak english. 

she l i t e r a l l y shoots this taiwanese taxi driver, in taiwan for not being able to speak english. she’s in taipei and she’s shooting people as they are of no use to her because they don’t speak english. 

just think about the sort of message that’s sending out. she’s not being “bad-ass strong female character who takes no shit,” she’s saying that english is useful and better. this is the type of harmful ideology that stretches all the way back from when western countries were colonising and forcing their language and customs on other countries. 

let me explain with a real life example. i was born in new zealand to two taiwanese parents. i am fluent in english, but mandarin is conversational at best. my friends in taiwan say that i am “so lucky” to speak fluent english, when they are fluent in mandarin and their english level is no worse than my mandarin. they tell me that they want to perfect their english but in the same breath tell me that mandarin isn’t worth perfecting because i have english and that’s “enough”. they also tell me how pretty my white friends are when they see pictures.

this is the type of neo imperialism ideology that they’ve grown up buying into. it honestly hurts and frustrates me that they belittle their own culture like this, honestly believing that the western world is superior. this is the type of neo imperialism ideology that this film (hopefully unintentionally) promotes: white people are better and will save the day. 

if they wanted to film a movie about a white women getting back at those who had violated her, why not film it in a western country? if they wanted to film it in taiwan, why not find an asian lead actress?

i do agree that we need more women protagonists in action/superhero movies, but not like this. its not okay that the female lead needs to be kidnapped and have her body cut open without her consent in order to gain her powers, and those said those powers do not make any of this racist bullshit okay. 

i am just so tired and angry of poc always being brushed off to the side as either props or villains in mainstream media. 

as a poc, it’s so frustrating to see that the of the standard of beauty still white women when we live in multi-cultural societies and a diverse world. 

feminism is about equality. a film in which poc are presented as evil and inferior before being killed off by a superior white woman does not promote equality.